Incompatible foundation

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What you described points to foundational incompatibility — you and your partner are not aligned on the things that actually hold a relationship together across years. Love is often present in these relationships. Love is not the issue. The issue is that you are trying to build on ground that cannot hold the weight.

This is one of the hardest places to sit with. It is normal to look for exceptions, for the one thing that might change it. Some relationships do shift with real work, usually with a skilled therapist and both partners fully invested. Many do not, and staying in them for years is its own kind of harm — to you, to your partner, and to anyone watching.

What to do next

This is not a decision to make from one quiz. It is a prompt to stop avoiding an honest look. Talk to a therapist alone before you talk to your partner. Work out what you actually need, not what you have been settling for. Then decide what conversation you need to have, and when.