Am I Dating a Narcissist? 15-Trait Quiz
Narcissism exists on a spectrum. This 15-trait quiz helps you see where your partner lands — and what to do with that information.
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One question per screen. No account required. Your answers stay on your device.
Possible results (4)
Probably not a narcissist
Most of what you described points to a normal partner, not a narcissistic one.
Read the full result →Some traits, but likely not NPD
Your partner shows some narcissistic patterns — this is more common than many people realize.
Read the full result →Significant narcissistic patterns
Your partner shows many of the clearest markers of narcissistic patterns. This is costing you.
Read the full result →Highly likely narcissistic abuse
What you described is consistent with severe narcissistic abuse. You deserve real support in understanding this.
Read the full result →
Frequently Asked Questions
How long does this quiz take, and how many questions are there?
You answer 15 questions about how your partner behaves day to day, and it takes about three minutes. There are no text boxes and nothing to write out. Each question gives you four options, and you pick the one closest to your real experience, not the version you wish were true.
Can this quiz tell me if my partner is a narcissist?
No. Nothing online can diagnose narcissistic personality disorder, and this quiz does not try. Only a qualified clinician who has actually assessed someone can do that. What you get instead is a structured way to look at behavior you may have been explaining away, plus language for patterns that felt hard to name.
Do I need to sign up or give my email to see my result?
No. You go from the last question straight to your result: no account, no login, no email required. Your answers stay in the browser on your own device rather than on a profile someone could look up. Nothing is posted anywhere, and nobody is notified that you took it.
The result scared me. What is a safe next step?
Slow down before you act on it. Pick one person outside the relationship and describe the specific things that keep happening, without softening them. If you feel scared, controlled, or unsure what is real, bring this to a therapist who knows these dynamics, or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. They help with coercive control, not just physical violence.
What if my partner is warm and loving a lot of the time?
That contradiction is the confusing part, and it is common. Good days do not cancel out the harder pattern, and they can make it easier to talk yourself out of what you noticed. So watch what repeats, and watch what happens after you tell your partner something hurt you. Can they take it in and act differently, or only apologize?
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