Am I the Problem? 10-Question Self-Audit

An adult look in the mirror. 10 scenarios to help you see what's actually yours to own in this relationship — and what isn't.

⏱️ 3 min

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Possible results (4)

  • You are not the problem

    You show up with self-awareness, accountability, and regulation.

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  • You have some growth zones

    Mostly healthy, with a few specific patterns worth working on.

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  • You are hurting your partner more than you realize

    Several of your patterns are costing your partner real energy. This is workable.

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  • You are likely the primary source of harm in the relationship

    Honest answer for an honest quiz: some of what you described is causing serious harm.

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