Are They a Red Flag? 10 Questions to Check Your Partner
Worried about your partner? This 10-scenario quiz surfaces patterns that signal green, yellow, or red flags in the relationship.
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One question per screen. No account required. Your answers stay on your device.
Possible results (3)
Green flag partner
Your partner shows the core traits of a healthy relationship.
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Mixed patterns — some real strengths, some real concerns.
Read the full result →Red flag partner
Several patterns here are signs of an unhealthy or potentially abusive relationship.
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Frequently Asked Questions
How long does this red flag quiz take?
There are ten questions, and it takes about three minutes. Each one describes an everyday situation and you pick the answer closest to how your partner usually reacts. You can step back to change an answer, and your progress saves in your browser, so an interruption will not make you start over.
Is this enough to call my partner toxic or abusive?
No. It cannot diagnose anyone, and ten answers cannot capture a whole relationship. What it gives you is a structured way to look at how your partner handles conflict, boundaries, and your independence, and where those answers land on a green to red range. Treat it as a starting point for thinking, not a verdict.
Does taking this leave anything behind on my device?
No account and no email needed. You answer the questions and your result comes up right away. The answers stay in your browser rather than on a profile somewhere, and clearing your browser data removes them. If you are worried about someone else seeing this, use a private window and close it when you finish.
What should I do if my result worries me?
Take it seriously, and try not to sort through it by yourself. A licensed therapist or a confidential advocate can help you think clearly about what you are living with, and reaching out does not mean you have decided anything. If your answers land in the red range, that result page lists free confidential hotlines. If you feel unsafe right now, call emergency services.
What if my partner isn't like this all the time?
Almost no one is difficult every day, and warmth in between does not erase a pattern. The questions ask about what usually happens, so answer for the version of your partner you get most often, not their best day. If you want to talk the mixed feelings through, Lovon is private and available any time.
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