Does My Ex Still Love Me? Quiz: Miss Me or Over Me?

The questions cover five kinds of signal. How it ended and how long ago: who made the call and how much time has passed. Contact: how often they reach out, what it is about, and whether they show up on days that matter to you. Tone and words: whether they sound warm, nostalgic, angry or indifferent, whether they bring up shared memories, and what they have said about the two of you. Reactions: how they respond to your new life, how they act in person, and what they did with your things. And their life now: what mutual friends mention without being asked, whether they are with someone new, and whether their warmth has grown, held or faded since the breakup.

Each answer scores from 0 to 3, and higher scores mean more signs that your ex has moved on. No single answer decides your result. What matters is the pattern, and whether it holds over weeks rather than one evening.

The strongest signs your ex still has feelings are the ones that take effort and repeat. They reach out on their own, for a personal reason or a thin excuse, and keep the conversation going. They bring up memories and inside jokes without being prompted. They remember your birthday or a hard week with something personal, not a polite line. When they hear you are dating or doing well, they go quiet, ask a few too many questions, or make a comment they did not need to make. In person they linger, get nervous or find reasons to keep talking. Friends you share mention, unprompted, that you still come up.

Anger belongs on this list too, which surprises people. An ex who still gets heated about the breakup is not indifferent. Anger usually means it still matters to them, though it is a poor foundation for anything new.

The clearest sign someone is over a relationship is calm indifference. Not anger and not awkwardness, but easy neutrality: they are polite, practical and unbothered, and they talk to you the way they would talk to any old acquaintance. Other signs include handing back your things quickly and without drama, rarely mentioning the past, reacting to your good news with ordinary goodwill, friends saying they seem happy, and a new relationship that has become settled rather than a quick rebound. A slow fade in contact over months usually means feelings are settling too.

Some of the signs people search for most are the weakest: viewing your stories, liking an old photo, a "hey" at 1 a.m., keeping your hoodie. They can come from love, and just as easily from boredom, habit, loneliness or curiosity. This quiz deliberately does not ask how often you look at their profile or who viewed your posts. Watching an ex online tends to keep the hurt going, and one study of Facebook use after breakups linked it with more distress and longing (the FAQ below has the details).

This is the part most lists of signs leave out. People often keep feelings for an ex and still believe the breakup was right. Longing also rises and falls with the rest of someone's life: in a 2013 study, Stephanie Spielmann and colleagues found that when people's current relationships got worse, their longing for an ex went up. That kind of longing is often about a need for closeness, not a plan to return.

So this quiz reads feelings only. If you want to know whether your ex is likely to come back, the will my ex come back quiz scores those signals: whether the problem has changed, whether they make plans and keep them, and whether they own their part. Do exes come back? explains what research shows about couples who get back together, and how often it lasts.

This quiz looks at your ex. The am I over my ex quiz looks at you and how far you have come. The do I miss my ex or am I just lonely quiz helps you work out what your own missing is about, and why do I miss my ex explains why it can be so strong. If you are weighing whether to try again, the should I get back with my ex quiz tests that idea against the reasons it ended. And if your question is about your current partner and their ex, the is he over his ex quiz is the one you want.

There are four results: lingering love, some feelings with mixed signals, mostly moved on, and over it. Each one explains what the pattern means, what it cannot tell you, and what to do next. Each also ends with the question that matters more than any sign: what do you want? Learning that your ex still loves you does not help much until you know whether you want them back, and learning that they are over you is easier to carry once you know what you want for yourself.

Answer for how things are now, not how they were on the best day or how you hope they will be. If an answer falls between two options, pick the one a friend who knows you both would choose. It will give you a more useful result.

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