Love Test: How Strong Is Your Love, and What Kind?

Answer every statement about the same person. It can be a partner of many years, someone you have just started seeing, or someone you have not told yet. The test works for a crush too. Some statements describe things you may not have had the chance to do with this person, like spending a plain day together. If so, answer Never or Rarely. That is not a mark against your feelings. It shows which parts of love have had time to grow, and your result will say so.

Longing is the part most people mean by "being in love": the person who turns up in your mind out of nowhere, the jump when their name appears on your phone, the wish to close the gap when they are near. Researchers call this passionate love, and it tends to run highest early on.

Closeness is being known. It shows in whether you can be tired, worried or wrong in front of this person without tidying it up, whether they notice something is off before you say it, and whether silence with them is easy.

Staying power is choosing them on ordinary days. It is whether a plain day with them still feels like a good one, whether irritation passes and the warmth comes back, and whether your interest holds when nothing new is happening.

Two people can love someone equally hard and in completely different ways. A new crush can be almost all longing. A twenty-year marriage can be all closeness and staying power, with a quieter spark. A relationship under strain can be held together by staying power alone. One number, like a love percentage, would hide all of that. So this test reads the shape of your answers, and gives its own result when all three parts are strong at once.

Psychologists have studied love as something with parts for decades. Elaine Hatfield and Susan Sprecher described passionate love, the intense longing to be with another person, and built a well-known scale to measure it. Robert Sternberg's triangular theory splits love into intimacy, passion and commitment. This test borrows the idea that love has parts, not the wording. Its twelve statements are written by Lovon and ask about concrete moments rather than general feelings, because what you did and felt last week is easier to answer honestly than how much you love someone in general.

If your question is whether what you feel is love at all, or infatuation, the am I in love quiz is built for that. This test assumes there is a feeling and asks how strong it is and what shape it takes.

The triangular love test looks at an existing relationship and asks which of its three sides, intimacy, passion or commitment, has worn thin. This one is about your feeling for one person, whether or not you are together, and its third part is about ordinary days rather than plans for the future.

And if you want to look at how you act toward the person you love rather than how much you love them, the respect in love test covers that side.

Answer for the past month, not for the best or the worst stretch you have had. Go with the first answer that feels true. If you are torn between two options, the less flattering one is usually closer. There is no right score to aim for, and a quieter result is as useful as a strong one.

Each result explains what your shape of love tends to look like, what it does and does not mean, and a few things that help. A strong result is worth protecting. A quieter one is worth understanding before you decide anything. Love also changes over time, so the same test taken in a few months may tell a different story.

If you want to talk through what you feel, or practice how to say it, Lovon is an AI relationship coach you talk to by voice. It is support, not therapy.