Who's the Red Flag? A Friend Group Game

Type in your group's names, then vote on ten 'who is most likely to…' cards on one phone. At the end: the red flag of the group and everyone's signature flag. Free, nothing stored.

Who is playing?

Two to eight names. One phone, passed around or held up for the group.

All 30 "who is most likely to" red flag cards

Who is most likely to reply 'k' and mean war? (Passive-aggressive texting)
Who is most likely to check an ex's Instagram at 2 a.m.? (Not quite over it)
Who is most likely to say 'I'm fine' when they are very much not fine? (Hinting instead of saying)
Who is most likely to bring up something from three fights ago to win this one? (Keeping score)
Who is most likely to ghost the group chat for a week, then reply with a meme? (Disappearing acts)
Who is most likely to call someone their soulmate by the third date? (Love bombing)
Who is most likely to need the last word in every argument? (Winning over resolving)
Who is most likely to be 40 minutes late and blame traffic? (Your time is not their time)
Who is most likely to read a partner's texts over their shoulder? (Checking up)
Who is most likely to say 'sorry you feel that way' instead of sorry? (The non-apology)
Who is most likely to cancel plans an hour before, again? (Flaky)
Who is most likely to get jealous over a like on a stranger's photo? (Jealousy on a hair trigger)
Who is most likely to never once say 'you were right'? (Never wrong)
Who is most likely to give the silent treatment for a whole weekend? (Stonewalling)
Who is most likely to be in a six-month situationship and call it "seeing where it goes"? (Allergic to labels)
Who is most likely to decide their partner's friends are a bad influence? (Isolating)
Who is most likely to fix every fight with flowers instead of a conversation? (Buying the peace)
Who is most likely to scroll their phone through a whole date? (Half there)
Who is most likely to say all their exes were crazy? (Always the victim)
Who is most likely to set up a little "test" to see if a partner really cares? (Games instead of asking)
Who is most likely to send nine messages in a row when someone does not reply? (Anxious spiral)
Who is most likely to plan the couple's whole weekend without asking? (Deciding for two)
Who is most likely to compare a new partner to an ex out loud? (Still comparing)
Who is most likely to make a joke at their partner’s expense in front of everyone? (Humor as a weapon)
Who is most likely to vanish from the group the moment they start dating someone? (All-in, all gone)
Who is most likely to apologize beautifully and change nothing? (Same fight, new script)
Who is most likely to ask for a partner’s location "just in case"? (Tracking)
Who is most likely to leave someone on read on purpose? (Power move)
Who is most likely to plan a trip together on a first date? (Future faking)
Who is most likely to get weird when their partner has a close friend of any gender? (Insecurity at the wheel)

Every friend group has one. The one who replies 'k' and means war, who checks their ex's stories at 2 a.m., who has been in a situationship for six months and calls it 'seeing where it goes'. This game turns that conversation into ten quick rounds.

How to play

Add two to eight names. Each card asks who is most likely to do something mildly red-flaggy. The group points, someone taps the name, and the next card comes up. After ten cards you see who collected the most, plus everyone's signature flag. Play again for ten new cards.

Red flag, beige flag or just a bit much?

Most of these cards are beige flags with good PR: annoying, human, fixable. The ones worth taking seriously in a real relationship are the patterns that repeat, escalate or punish someone for saying no, like checking a partner's phone or deciding who they can see. If you want to sort the two, Red Flag or Green Flag? walks through 40 situations with Lovon's read on each.

Want the honest version about yourself?

The group vote is the fun one. The useful one is am I a red flag?: about five minutes, based on what you actually did in your last few disagreements, with a green, yellow or red result and what to do about it.

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Frequently Asked Questions

What is the who is the red flag game?

A party game for friends: you vote on 'who is most likely to…' cards about everyday red flags, like leaving someone on read or keeping score in a fight. Whoever collects the most cards is the red flag of the group. It runs on one phone and stores nothing.

How many people can play?

Two to eight. Pass the phone around or hold it up for the group and tap the name everyone points at.

Is this a real red flag test?

No, it is a game for laughs. For an honest look at your own patterns, take the am I a red flag quiz, which asks about what you actually did rather than what your friends think.

Are the cards about abuse?

No. The cards are everyday, mostly harmless habits. Control, threats and violence are not a joke and are not in this game.