AI Divorce Coach

It starts with the stage, because divorce is not one problem. Someone still deciding needs something different from someone who told their spouse last night, or from someone answering their ex about Thanksgiving pickup a year later. Whether there are kids, and how old they are, changes almost every answer.

Then it separates what is yours to work on from what is not. How you tell people, what you say to your ex, how you get through the first weekend alone: that is coaching. Who keeps the house, how custody is split, what you owe or are owed: that is for a family lawyer or mediator, and the chat helps you write down the questions to bring them instead of guessing at the answers.

After that come two or three next steps or words in your voice, what not to do, and one question back.

Deciding whether to divorce. If you sound unsure, it says so, rather than helping you announce something you have not decided. The stay or leave pressure test argues both sides of your case, the is my marriage over quiz is a quicker check, and what leaving would take lays out the practical side.

Telling your spouse. The first sentences, and an honest answer when they ask whether there is someone else. How to tell your spouse you want a divorce goes through that conversation in full.

Telling the kids. Simple words, the right amount for their age, together if that is safe, and nothing that asks them to choose a side.

The first weeks of separation. The empty evenings, the first weekend without the kids, the friends who do not know what to say.

Logistics with your ex. Short, factual messages about schedules and the house that do not reopen the marriage.

Co-parenting messages. If what they sent was hostile, how to respond to a toxic co-parent writes a reply that gives them nothing to fight with.

Holidays. Who has the kids, what you tell them about it, and what you do with the day if it is not your year.

Family who take sides or keep asking for details. The family boundary plan gives you what to say.

Dating again, later, and what, if anything, the kids need to hear about it.

Grief for the marriage. Even when you chose to leave, something ended, and it is allowed to hurt.

It gives no legal, custody, tax or financial advice: not who should file first, what a court is likely to decide, or how to split an account. Those depend on your state and your facts. It can help you prepare the questions and the documents instead.

It will not take sides against your ex or diagnose them. It will not write messages meant to provoke, score points or build a case. And it will not promise that the divorce goes smoothly, or that the kids will be fine by a certain date.

If your spouse or ex threatens you, hurts you, controls your money or where you go, or makes you afraid, the chat will not write a script for talking to them. Planning to leave, or to share children, with someone like that is work for people trained in it. In the US, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788. If you are in danger right now, or a child is in danger, call 911. If you are having thoughts of hurting yourself, call or text 988.

This chat, like the Lovon app, is for adults 18 and over. If you are a teenager whose parents are splitting up, talk to an adult you trust.

This page is a text chat that runs for about ten messages, usually enough for one situation. The Lovon app takes the same approach by voice, which helps when the hard part is saying something out loud, like the first sentence you will say to the kids. It is an AI there too, not a person and not a lawyer. If you want to keep going, get the Lovon app.