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Lovon Data · 25,000+ answers · updated November 2026

Are we compatible? What couples say about fights, space and the future

Compatibility is less about matching hobbies than about how two people handle closeness, conflict and the future. These are the answers couples give, anonymously, when they test exactly that.

Counted from Lovon’s compatibility quiz and updated every other day.

Are We Compatible? What 25,000+ answers show

  • 35%

    say one of them shuts down, stonewalls or escalates in most fights.

  • 41%

    admit there's a major life question they quietly disagree on and haven't settled.

  • 29%

    hold things back because they don't think their partner will handle them well.

How results break down
  • 11% Highly compatible
  • 29% Compatible with growth zones
  • 29% Mixed compatibility
  • 20% Misaligned
  • 12% Incompatible foundation
Share of everyone who finished Are We Compatible? and got each result.
The answer that moves the result most

“We can talk about hard things without it turning into a fight.”

Share who got “Highly compatible”, by answer:

  • Strongly agree30%
  • Agree0%
  • Everyone11%
Of people who answered “Strongly agree”, 30% got “Highly compatible”. Of those who answered “Agree”, almost none did.
By age

Share who got “Misaligned”:

  • 18–2514%
  • 26–3427%
  • 35+26%
26–34-year-olds land on “Misaligned” about twice as often as 18–25-year-olds.
How people answer

“I hold things back because I do not think my partner will handle them well.”

  • Strongly disagree28%
  • Disagree31%
  • Neutral13%
  • Agree21%
  • Strongly agree8%
How people answer

“I often feel anxious about whether my partner is pulling away — or I often feel smothered by them.”

  • Strongly disagree16%
  • Disagree28%
  • Neutral17%
  • Agree27%
  • Strongly agree13%
Where people split

“We want roughly the same kind of life five years from now (kids, location, career priorities).”

An almost even split: 35% answered “Agree”, 35% answered “Strongly agree”.
Who takes this quiz
  • 18–25: 62%
  • 26–34: 22%
  • 35+: 16%

Take Are We Compatible? and see where you land →

How these numbers are counted

Every answer is counted anonymously: each run of a quiz gets a random number that is never linked to a person, a device or an account, and questions about safety are not counted at all. Result shares cover everyone who finished a quiz since July 2026; answer patterns start in November 2026. Numbers update every other day. Shares below 100 people are rounded to the nearest 5%, and groups by age or gender are compared only when each is large enough and the gap is clear. The people here chose to take a relationship quiz, so read the numbers as what they say, not as a survey of everyone. How our quizzes work

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