Love statistics: what people say when they ask “am I in love?”
People rarely ask “am I in love?” when the answer is obvious. These numbers come from the moment of not being sure: thousands of anonymous answers to two Lovon quizzes about one specific person.
They describe the people who took the quizzes, mostly in their late teens and twenties, not everyone who has ever been in love. Read them as a mirror, not as a census.
Love Test: what 8,000+ answers show
- 36%
say not a single day went by last month without this person crossing their mind.
- 56%
say something small, like a song, a street or a joke, often brings this person to mind.
- 30%
often edit what they say around this person to keep up the version of themselves they think this person likes.
- 19% Deeply in love, on all three counts
- 51% Swept up: the pull is ahead of the rest
- 5% Close and steady, with a quieter spark
- 4% Choosing them while the feeling runs cool
- 20% Feelings still forming, or fading
“In the past month, something small, like a song, a street or a joke, brought this person to mind out of nowhere.”
Share who got “Feelings still forming, or fading”, by answer:
- Never60%
- Sometimes20%
- Often3%
- Everyone16%
“In the past month, something small, like a song, a street or a joke, brought this person to mind out of nowhere.”
- Never12%
- Rarely6%
- Sometimes26%
- Often56%
“In the past month, my interest in this person dipped whenever nothing new or exciting was happening between us.”
- Never40%
- Rarely17%
- Sometimes13%
- Often30%
- 18–25: 91%
- 26–34: 2%
- 35+: 6%
Am I in Love? What 10,000+ answers show
- 30%
say most of what they feel is intensity: fireworks, anxiety, rush.
- 10%
say their feelings are more anxious than stable.
- 55%
strongly agree they'd stay if this person went through a rough year.
- 37% Yes, this is love
- 3% Falling in love (early stage)
- 47% Infatuation, not love (yet)
- 11% More attachment than love
- 2% Love has faded or never arrived
“If they were going through a rough year (illness, job loss, depression), I would want to stay.”
- Neutral10%
- Agree35%
- Strongly agree55%
“My feelings for them are more stable than anxious — I do not spend most of my time worrying about losing them.”
- Disagree10%
- Neutral20%
- Agree45%
- Strongly agree20%
“I can be honest with them about things I usually hide.”
- 18–25: 80%
- 26–34: 14%
- 35+: 6%
How these numbers are counted
Every answer is counted anonymously: each run of a quiz gets a random number that is never linked to a person, a device or an account, and questions about safety are not counted at all. Result shares cover everyone who finished a quiz since July 2026; answer patterns start in November 2026. Numbers update every other day. Shares below 100 people are rounded to the nearest 5%, and groups by age or gender are compared only when each is large enough and the gap is clear. The people here chose to take a relationship quiz, so read the numbers as what they say, not as a survey of everyone. How our quizzes work