Worth working on first

What this means

Your answers describe a marriage that is under strain, not one that is finished. The doubt is real, but it is recent or comes and goes with hard weeks. He still listens when you raise something, respect mostly holds, and when you picture the future with him there is still some hope in it. Wanting to leave after a bad stretch is common, and on its own it does not mean the marriage is over.

Why the thought shows up

The question "should I leave my husband" often arrives when life is heavy for reasons that are partly outside the marriage: a new baby, money stress, illness, a move, or two people who have stopped talking about anything but logistics. The marriage then gets the blame for the exhaustion. That does not make your feelings wrong. It means it is worth separating "I am tired and lonely in this marriage" from "this marriage cannot work."

What to try before you decide

Pick the one thing that bothers you most and name it to him in a calm moment, as a request rather than a verdict: "I miss us talking at night. Can we put the phones away after nine?" Watch what he does with it over the next few weeks, not just in the moment. Add one small thing that used to be yours as a couple. If the same problem keeps coming back, a couples counselor can help you both hear it differently.

The Is My Marriage Over? quiz looks at connection, contempt and repair in more depth, and how to save your marriage has concrete first steps.

If this result surprises you

Answer the quiz again on a calmer day. If the result moves a lot, your feelings are moving with your days, and that is useful to know too. If you want to think it through out loud, Lovon is an AI relationship coach you talk to by voice. It is support, not therapy.