Others' good moods carry you

What this means

Of the three channels this test scores, lift stands out in your answers. Other people's good moods carry you with them. A room with energy lifts you even when you arrive tired. You sign up for things because someone else's excitement was catching. A call with someone in great spirits can keep your mood up for the rest of the day, though nothing in your own day changed.

This is the side of emotional contagion that gets talked about least, and it is the pleasant one. People who catch good moods are often great to celebrate with. They join in, and they make other people's enthusiasm feel welcome. Your result is mostly good news.

Where it can cost you

Lift depends on the company. If your good moods come mostly from other people's, then time alone, or time with low-energy people, can feel flatter than it needs to. Some people with this profile notice that they avoid being alone, fill every evening with plans, or feel a dip on Sunday nights after a busy weekend.

The second cost is decisions. Catching someone's excitement is a fine reason to try a class. It is a less reliable reason to commit to a trip, an investment, a move or a relationship. When the excitement was mostly theirs, it can fade quickly once you are on your own with the decision.

In a couple, a quieter partner can start to feel like a weight, simply because they do not supply the lift. That says more about where your mood comes from than about them.

What this is not

It is not a lack of feelings of your own. Many people who score high on lift have plenty of feeling of their own; other people's joy just reaches them easily. If what you catch most is other people's stress rather than their happiness, look again at the tension items. That is a different channel, and it costs more.

What to do next

Build one source of lift that does not need anyone else. Something you enjoy alone, a walk, music, a project or cooking, that reliably brightens a flat evening. It does not replace company. It means you are not dependent on it.

Before big decisions made in someone else's excitement, wait a couple of days and ask whether you still want it when they are not in the room.

And give a quieter partner a different job. They may not supply the lift, but they may be the person you come back to afterwards.

If you want somewhere to check whether an exciting plan is yours or someone else's, Lovon can help you think it through.